Some people just know when they’ve found The One. For the rest of us, however, it’s not always so clear. How can you be absolutely sure that your relationship will continue to grow?
Bottom line: you can’t see the future. A few pretty good indicators, however, can point you in the right direction—whether that’s running for the hills or taking the plunge!
She laughs at your jokes.
Let’s begin with the obvious. Connecting with humor and sharing jokes will help you get over life’s difficult hurdles together. Plus it’s just nice to have someone who gets you.
She listens intensely to what you say.
When you’re going to spend the rest of your life together, your conversations had better be interesting! She connects with you on an intellectual level and you’ve shared many meaningful discussions.
She shares your important values.
You’ve discussed your faith, whether or not you want children, and where you see yourself in ten years. You agree with and/or respect her beliefs, and envision a blissfully happy future together.
She respects your personal time/space.
You two get along great, but also understand that you don’t have to do everything together. When you hang out with the guys, relax alone in front of a video game, or work out at the gym, she’s cool with it.
You adore spending time with her.
On the flip side, she is seriously so fun and amazing that you can’t imagine not wanting to hang out with her. In fact, it would be a lot easier if you two just lived together, so you wouldn’t have to commute and deal with roommates.
She loves what you love.
Sharing common hobbies or interests is definitely a plus. If you appreciate the same movies or are into the same sports, you’ll always have something fun to do together.
You like her hair.
And the way her perfume smells. And the way she giggles. You are totally into the small details about how she acts and styles herself every day. You find her incredibly attractive and the two of you enjoy a passionate romantic connection.
You wouldn’t care if she went bald.
Seriously. If she had to shave off those lovely locks or stopped wearing high heels, you wouldn’t care (at least, not much). First and foremost, you are in love with her personality.
She cares about you.
About your problems, about your career, about your fleeting daily struggles. She finds ways to cheer you up and goes out of her way to be nice. She is a bright and positive influence in your life.
You like her friends/family.
You’ll see each other’s friends and family quite a bit, so it’s a good sign if you get along! Each of you will turn to your support networks for advice and encouragement when times get tough.
Now go through this list and flip the scenarios. Do you laugh at her jokes? Do you listen intensely to her philosophical musings? Does she enjoy spending time with your friends?
If your relationship isn’t a two-way street, change things up. On the other hand, if you can’t imagine feeling happier, it might be time to go ring shopping.
How did you know he/she was the One? Share your story!